We all know it does us little or no good, but revenge is absolutely human when you've been dumped and you're overwhelmed by heartbreak. Suddenly it seems possible to get revenge on your ex. You can also go to a prostitute and have a good time.

With this article, we absolutely do not want to encourage you to take revenge on your ex. Mainly because it won't help you in the long run. The best revenge you can have on your ex is to focus on yourself and go through life as happily as possible.

You loved the other person, otherwise you would never have started the relationship. The goal should never be to make the other person suffer, because doing so will only make things worse. The best revenge is to regain control of your own life. The following suggestions are all forms of revenge, but more subtle than demolishing things, ordering pizza or scratching your car.

7 forms of subtle revenge

1. Do what you've always wanted to do, but with your best friend. Book a getaway to Rome, go to a big festival for a day and take lots of pictures of yourself looking really happy. Post them all on Facebook. Your ex will still see them (and hear about them if you're no longer "friends") and will probably remember that this was a trip you often talked about together.

2. Keep in touch with your ex's friends so that their opinion of you isn't just shaped by the stories he/she tells. The last thing you want is for your image or reputation to be affected by one-sided stories that are improvised or taken out of context. If you keep in touch with your ex's friends, they'll make sure he/she knows everything that's going on in your life. And the funnier it is, the more it will irritate your ex.

3. Make sure you are seen around your ex with a new flame. You don't have to hang out with his/her best friend, but if you are regularly seen in the neighbourhood where he/she lives with a good date, your ex will hear about it or see it for him/herself. The message that it was relatively easy to get over him in the end is sure to sink in.

4. Take care of yourself, both internally and externally. The last thing you want is to run into your ex and look like a bedraggled, self-pitying slob. Show that you are much nicer than when you first met. Make your ex regret letting you go. Shape your life so that your ex wants to be part of it again. The more time and attention you give yourself, the more you will see that you have improved.

5. Improve the sex! All those kinky fantasies your ex has always wanted to try with you can come true. Don't go all out, but do a little bit. You probably don't want to be a slut after your divorce either, but enhancing your sex life with one-night stands and experimenting with masturbation offers endless possibilities. It's good for confidence, self-esteem and respect. All these new experiences make it easier to leave your ex behind. And if he finds out about your fantastic sex life through gossip, that's a bonus.

6. Start something with someone nicer than your ex. This sounds easier than it is, but it's worth a try. Both men and women are mega jealous if you date someone much better looking. Younger or much richer is also possible if you want to make your ex feel like he or she has let you go!

7. the hardest but by far the best advice we can give you is to forgive your ex for what he/she has done to you. Make sure you cut the ties between you as far as possible. If your ex dwells on the past, keeps trying to contact you or argues with you, you will not move forward. Put it behind you, get over his or her bad qualities and bad behaviour. In this way, you will show that you are more mature and stronger than your ex will be. Sweet revenge.